If you would like to talk to a counselor, we would like to help! Please fill out the brief questionnaire below. All submissions go directly to our lead counselors and are completely confidential.
What We Believe About Counseling
God has answers to our deepest problems, and we hope to point you to his all-satisfying person. Everyone needs counsel at some point to help understand and respond to issues in life. Whether the issues are related to marriage, family, finances, depression, abuse, or a thousand other struggles, we all get stuck and overwhelmed and need the help of a caring, trusted counselor.
Counseling is different from listening to sermons or doing personal Bible study because there is another person involved to help connect life circumstances to the Bible and make specific application. We believe that the Bible addresses all situations of sin and suffering, and is sufficient for all needs of the soul. God delivered His word to faithful men, and has preserved its accuracy so that our lives could be transformed by its truths. However, we all experience times when the Bible doesn’t seem relevant or helpful. This is when a compassionate, biblically-trained counselor can help make sense of life and God’s word, and “point you to the all satisfying person of Jesus Christ.”
- Good counselors are gentle, humble and patient (Hebrews 5:2; 1 Thessalonians 5:14)
- Kind and honest counsel is a blessing (Proverbs 27:9)
- Counseling is a process of deeper understanding of God (Ephesians 1:17-20) and yourself (Proverbs 20:5)
- Grace and truth should be part of all counseling (John 1:14; Ephesians 4:15-16)
- Counselors do not have the answers to fix problems. They are simply ambassadors for Jesus Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20-21; Jude 24-25; Titus 3:3-7)
The Purpose of Counseling
The purpose in all things is to glorify God. The counseling ministry at FCBC seeks to glorify God by helping people toward holiness as He has defined it in His word. This often means that the counselor shares the load that people are bearing and helps them draw near to God to find the mercy and grace they need. It also means that the counselor has a purpose in gently speaking truth about people’s situations and even choices that they have made.
Counseling is a conversation. It is not a lecture or a process of turning over every stone. It is building a trusting relationship between counselor and counselee that serves as a foundation for honest communication. Most counseling meetings will shift back and forth between personal conversation, descriptions of life and family circumstances and specific biblical application. Counselors are expected to model the traits listed in the “what we believe” section, and counselees are expected to be honest and open to hearing truth.
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What to Expect in Premarital Counseling
Premarital counseling is designed to help two believers prepare for marriage in the most God-honoring way possible. Topics such as sexual purity before marriage, children, finances, communication, conflict resolution, expectations, etc. are perfect topics to address in preparation for marriage because for the most part, couples are starting with a clean slate. Bringing two people together is more difficult than at first meets the eye. Expectations, preconceived ideas about how a marriage should work, misunderstanding of roles within the home, selfishness, greed, and other such issues are just a sampling of the myriads of ways in which seeds of selfishness can form and undermine an otherwise Christ-exalting marriage. Talking about these things in advance can help clear away some of the potential conflict. Additionally, recognizing some of the common pitfalls in advance can alert newly married couples to initiate constructive habits in defense against much that would destroy that relationship.